Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts

Saturday, December 27, 2014

“I DID NOTHING WRONG!”

Divorce I declare on November 25th of this year.
“If you stay I will comply!” you said.
Will my age be 95 when this I see and hear?
“I did nothing wrong!” I get all this junk from your head.
Reasonable I planned to be.
Setting some words in pencil.
Even when inside I hadn’t a “Yippee.”
Glad these words were not set in stencil.
One day a week exercise with an Fitness Instructor.
Find a church and attend.
Two times a month on Sundays I direct.
Wednesday I penned.
Date night,
Family night, time,
Couples therapy I write.
Family counseling I chime.
Tanner, a prime consideration.
We each have our own page.
While we need to tune to the same station.
Seems to me I parent around your rages.
Judge me plenty in this marriage.
If you are a Christian and fill in plenty of blanks.
Can we find a carriage,
To carry us where God ranks and we give thanks?
Whose is this baby?
Was your reply to my telling you of my pregnancy.
What does that imply to me maybe?
Great way to start the gestation.
Your way or the highway,
Has been how it seems
Our marriage a flyby,
My behavior says to you. Blowing to smithereens.
I am not lily white.
Marriage takes two.
Perfection is a quest that people must hold.  Allright I did bite.
After a bit, I bet we both blew.
Attention you want.
Tis not Tanner you are for him to prosper.
Only wanting to flaunt.
Called it Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy and like a cosper.
No to church choir.
Hated my enrolling in swimming, karate and many other sports.
Attention you said I wished to acquire.
Forbid me to run for PTA President, threatening me for some reason you’d report.
The house was always yours in title.
Shuffling aside the promise to buy a new house once married.
I didn’t do this or that which was vital.
How I felt as if I’d been buried.
When will you be home?
You were late.
Where is my tomb?
Was I mistake but your love appeared as if hate.
Plenty on our plate, for sure,
We must do,
In finding a cure,
After saying “I do!”
Already, you have stated the fitness instructor you aren’t ready for.
I, in good faith, agreed to remain for three months and try.
Let us remember it isn’t war.
Hope and faith should keep us from cries and saying bye.
Your barter was to walk the dog,
With me two or three times a week,
For 15 minutes to 30 minutes, A fog
Was not your state of mind or your critique.
One day you proclaim,
If it is going to be like this,
We won’t be part of the marriage game.
I pray we can find bliss.
You think I keep bringing up the past,
Nagging without forgiving.
However, there is a contrast.
Purposely, getting at anger thrown out isn’t how I will be living.
I asked you to write down your wants and desires.
Of all things I haven’t forgotten God first is a must.
We must put out many fires while relighting a major fire.
A wind gust of marriage thrust is needed that we trust.
Remember, telling me I couldn’t take Tanner
By himself on a vacation.
One big banner,
Is that I can do this type of migration.
Our marriage has lots of problems.
I promise to convey,
My love and earnest,
Struggle to succeed.
God states anything is possible
Through Christ.
Thinking we agree on most of the doctrinal,
Principles from the bible, we must pay the price.
Forgetting and forgiving,
Yes, I concur,
Without misgivings.
If you and I finally understand each other without it being a blur.
God, with faith,
We pray and ask,
To hear what you saith.
Vowing to endure any task.

Friday, July 4, 2014

F Is For Friendship

"A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly : and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother."

My sister is like a friend. But I have a friend Becky of forty plus years.  She sticks closer than a sister almost.  It is hard to distinguish between the two.  Why?  Because both are my friends, my best friends.

What is a friend?

  1. (Miriam Webster) a person who you like and enjoy being.
  2. (Miriam Webster) a favored companion.
  3. (Miriam Webster) a person who has a strong liking for and trust in another.

Synonyms (Miriam Webster)  cohort, confident, supporter, collaborator, and main woman.

Becky and Twila meet all of these critera.

Sandra's (my defenition) of friendship.

1.  Shared experiences.
2. Support each other in all life needs.
3. Keep in touch often.
4. Help each other in all needs.
5. Will be there in all future life expereinces and future needs.
6. We do this because we care an love each other.

My sister Twila has been around since my birth.  We had our differences growing up. I owe my sister plenty.  If I need her she is always there to help and support me.  I love her not because of this but because she loves me and does it out of love.  She is an angel on earth.

Becky is my friend that got in trouble with and we grew up together.  We learned about life together.  We learned from our mistakes with one another.  We decided what kind of parents we would be because of what we did wrong.

Becky keeps in touch with me almost daily.  Cares like a sister.  She is part of my family.  She grew up knowing my sister Twila and her best friend Kathy, now my sister-in-law and another friend.

Friendship means we can call on one another anytime and we all come running not out of duty but because we care.  I am blessed to have Becky, Twila and Kathy and others in my life.

KJV Provers 27:5  Open rebuke is better than secret love.

Friends will openly rebuke you.  Hoesty is something that comes with friendship.  They call you on thing s when you need it.  They slap you down when you need it.  Not physically but with words to make you see what is good and right for you.

What more can I say about friendship?  Friendship is a special kind of love.  If you haven't  known it then you have missed a great thing on Earth. It is not to late.
If you follow the Golden Rule, you will find a friend that will treat you right back with the special kind of love called friendship.